How I learnt to love myself this year

 

Reflection

The year 2017! It’s almost over!

I’m typing this post in the days between Christmas and New year. That weird point where you don’t know what to do with yourself. Overindulged and PJs galore. What you can do is reflect, what are you proud of? Anything you would you like to change? Your favourite moments?

Iv had a few moments but something that has really stuck out to me is learning how to love myself more. I don’t mean in a shallow way, but I guess that could count. Iv learnt to accept me! Not to punish myself for decisions I make, or outcomes in my life. Iv learnt that self-love is so important and without it, everything else through life is just that little bit more difficult.

Goals

Have you had any goals that you’ve achieved? Or maybe not achieved this year? I used to make the mistake of only celebrating when I achieve something huge! I would only allow myself time off or downtime if I ticked off something on my list. Which is ridiculous because life itself should be celebrated whenever you get the chance! I don’t mean go out partying every night. I mean enjoy your life, see your loved ones, spend time with your friends and cherish each moment. Don’t get so caught up in making a living and saving for that holiday or the weekend. That you forget how to live now!

I spoke to a life coach earlier this year who really made me stop and rewire a few things in my life. She helped me get a wider perspective on things and to stop focusing on the negative. Viewing your cup half full rather than half empty.

Learning to love yourself

  • Ask yourself what makes you happy? 

Things, people, places, your favourite movie? That candle that smells like home. Your favourite lipstick. Being in shape. Having money. Seeing loved ones. Travelling.

  • When you answer that question, DO what makes you happy!

Make yourself and your happiness a priority. Dedicate time at least once a week to you time. Learning how to make yourself happy is vital, especially in relationships. How can you love someone else when you can’t love yourself?

  • Keep a diary 

I started a diary this year, to document and take note of my feelings, thoughts, hopes and dreams. Sounds cliche but looking back, it really helped me and my self-awareness. I became in tune with my feelings and noticed when I needed to dedicate some time to myself to get myself back on track. Life has its ups and downs that we can’t control but how you deal with them is what we have control over! Make the most of that.

  • Give yourself a break!

We are our worst critique! Always putting ourselves down. Feelings like we are not good enough, not skinny enough, not pretty enough, not tall enough, not short enough. The list goes on. Stop!! Give yourself a break. Imagine if the way you spoke about yourself, you said that to a stranger. Imagine their reaction. They would be hurt, shocked and would not want to talk to you again. Now, why would you treat yourself like that?? Really…

  • Stop Comparing

We spend so much time on social media these days. Viewing everyone’s ‘highlight gram‘. We compare our everyday life to people’s best highlights. Because let’s face it…who really posts regularly mundane things on social media? We become so addicted to scrolling, likes, shares, comments. That we forget about the real world. Especially now celebrities are so accessible on social media. It’s very easy to feel low about yourself while you watch Kylie Jenner on Snapchat, having her nails done and posing in her mansion daily. But come on! Your reality is your’s only and that’s unique to you. Focus on that.

My Top Tip for 2018

Love yourself! You are enough. Your life is so unique and you should be so proud of yourself. Enjoy the good moments and learn from the not so good. Be grateful and don’t dwell.

I wish you all the love and light for 2018. Let’s smash it together!

Natalie Rose

 

 

 

Photography by – Chris Dart

Michelle Thole Life Coach

 

 

 

 

11 Comments

  1. December 31, 2017 / 12:50 am

    Being self aware I think is a great trait to have. Great article xo

    • Natalie Rose
      Author
      January 1, 2018 / 9:57 pm

      Thanks very much for checking it out. I agree 🙂

  2. December 31, 2017 / 1:11 am

    I have been trying to wrap my brain around similar things this year, that we can’t truly love and care for others if we don’t love and care for ourselves. Great post. ❤️

    • Natalie Rose
      Author
      January 1, 2018 / 10:05 pm

      Thanks for checking it out. it’s so true. spending the time to care for ourselves and our own well-being is vital. xx

  3. December 31, 2017 / 1:23 pm

    Totally agree about keeping a diary! it can make you so introspective!

    • Natalie Rose
      Author
      January 1, 2018 / 9:59 pm

      So true! Helps in so many ways. thanks for checking out my post 🙂

  4. January 1, 2018 / 2:36 am

    Nice post, this sums up how we can do best for ourselves this year! 🙂 Just to share, I have an advice derived from Marie Kondo’s end of year reflection: Read your diary last year and note what went well, what sparked joy, and what you learned. From these, set your goals from next year. I did this and this made me feel really great after the roller coaster ride I had last year. Simply, choose to be happy. The universe will conspire with you. 🙂

    • Natalie Rose
      Author
      January 1, 2018 / 10:02 pm

      Thanks very much. Im actually going to do this idea. I kept a diary for last year so will continue it and set new goals accordingly. thanks for the info 🙂 x

    • Natalie Rose
      Author
      January 1, 2018 / 10:03 pm

      thanks for checking it out. I totally agree, will be trying meditation out this year.

  5. February 14, 2018 / 2:39 pm

    loving yourself is so important, especially today!

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