So this is a little different to the posts I usually write, however, I felt like sharing. Recently iv noticed I am starting to know myself! Sounds silly but true. Like really know whats important to me, the type of people I like to be around and iv also learnt to pay attention to my feelings. So this post is 5 things that have become important to me in my 20’s. Things I never used to pay much attention to because I was possibly busy searching for other things.
When you’re in your teens, life is confusing enough and certain things you don’t worry about or focus on. You worry about other people’s opinion of you, maybe even strangers rather than those that love and care about you. I’m now mid-twenties and I totally don’t have it figured out at all but I have noticed a change. I know myself better, which comes with experience but also situations in the past that have hurt me, have taught me the biggest lessons and shaped who I am today. So I put together a quick list of a few things that now make a big difference in my life. Maybe you can relate?
1. Spending time with my family
I’m super lucky to have a big family who are all very supportive and loving and I know I can rely on them for anything. I have also been lucky enough to work abroad the past few years and I moved out from home when I was 18. Since moving and spending time apart from them iv realised how MUCH I need them and how much they keep me motivated, happy and remind me who I am and my values. When times are stressful they remind me why I started performing and acting in the first place. It’s very easy to take your family for granted at times because they are always there. They have unconditional love and always have your best interest at heart. I hope this is the case for my readers too. I try to make the most out of family time and create as many memories as possible when I get chance.
2. Eating good food, fuelling my body correctly
I used to enjoy eating crappy. Having cheat meals and treats which I still do but not like before. Iv noticed when I eat well my work is better. More energy, more motivation. I feel less bloated and sluggish, everything just feels easier. I try and food prep throughout the week and have lots of fruit and veg. It’s easy once you get into a routine. I still eat chocolate whenever I feel like it but also eating enough food throughout the day helps cut down binge eating on sugary foods for a quick fix. Eat good, fuel your body with the nutrients it needs to provide the best performance. We all want to be smashing life and ticking off those life goals! Eating well will help that trust me!
3. Being a good person
This is a funny one but something we should all think about. I used to only have my mind on myself. Which is super selfish and self-indulgent. Used to only see things from one perspective which would cause me a lot of agg when things didn’t go my way. Getting older and meeting people from different circumstances has taught me to be nice to everyone. You never know anyone’s story. I always try to be kind and thankful. Help those who need help especially in London. It feels good to be good to people. Appreciate those in your life and let them know. Life is so short. No time to be bitchy, angry or mean. What’s the point?
4. Taking Time for me
Life can be very busy and hectic. Slightly overwhelming and if you’re like me and like to people please, it’s hard to find time for yourself. With our phones locked to our thumbs, you can’t get away from anything! I get work emails at 2 am in the morning sometimes. Obviously, I read, I don’t always reply but still. Sometimes I have to step back. Turn my phone on to do not disturb and just have some chill time. My favourite me time routine is:
- Candles, old school RnB music or relaxing piano music
- Hot shower, exfoliate, face mask, hair mask
- deep moisturise. I mean DEEP! Between each toe kind of deep, so I get in bed slippy.
- Movie, series, chocolate (Lindt sea salt dark chocolate)
- phone on do not disturb and no alarm!
5. Surrounding myself with people that inspire and motivate me
I never used to get the saying ‘you are the company you keep’. But over the past few years, it’s made sense to me. Surrounding yourself with the type of people you aspire to be or who are like-minded will make a change in your life. However, we want to believe it we are influenced by the people around us. Why would you surround yourself with negative people? Notice those that bring you down and remove them from your life. As harsh as that may seem you don’t need that. I have a very supportive, understanding and positive group of friends around me and they make a huge impact on my life and I learnt how to spot toxic people. Unfortunately, of no fault of their own, I just choose not to be around them.
I think the main thing iv learnt is to be happy. Life is short and full of wonderful things. Focus on them and happiness will come.
Thanks for reading id love to hear your thoughts or own lessons learnt.
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